Self Care Sunday

As a mom, a wife, and a coach I sometimes find myself completely depleted from giving so much to others. It’s my calling to serve others and, as rewarding as it can be, it’s vital that I have a regular practice of acts of kindness towards myself. I can’t expect other people to always provide that for me. If you are a mom, you know that there are times when your kids take and take without giving anything back. We have moments in our relationship when we feel loved and cherished and that feels amazing. However, what about the other times when you are left feeling depleted, lonely and overwhelmed? It is vitally important that we take care of ourselves and have a regular and consistent habit of self-love.
When you start showing up for yourself and nurturing yourself, making daily deposits, you automatically start claiming your worth. Suddenly you will find the courage to set boundaries in toxic situations, find the time to exercise, or discover the strength to finally work towards your dream job. Whatever that is for you, when you start to show up for you, you become worthy of your time and effort.
We all have a personal emotional bank account where we make transactions such as withdrawals and deposits. Dr. Stephen R. Covey, the author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families®, defines an emotional bank account as one's relationship with another. The higher the balance, the more trust you have in the relationship. Over the years, as I have worked with my clients I have realized that we ourselves have a personal self-worth bank. This not only applies to relationships with others but the relationship with ourselves. We are either withdrawing from or depositing into our self-worth. When we don’t take the time to care for ourselves physically, mentally or spiritually, we withdraw from our sense of worthiness. Putting ourselves last and avoiding setting appropriate boundaries in our lives only confirms
that we are undeserving. Just like a bank account, the more we can deposit, the more abundance we will have. When we are looking at self-care, we must make regular deposits to balance out our withdrawals. When we are in the red—and let’s be honest, we all have had that feeling of opening up our bank statement or online app to see our balance in the red—we feel nauseous, anxious, overwhelmed, and sometimes hopeless. Aren’t those the same feelings that you feel when you’re in the red in life? When all you do is take care of other people but leave yourself to the very end, and even then still don’t take care of yourself? You might be in the red, and that never feels good. It’s time you start making those regular deposits to your self-worth bank. What is one thing you can do today? Leave it in the comments!